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All deaths are hard to accept, but they’re extra difficult to handle when they’re unexpected. If you lose a loved one to an accident, then it can be exceptionally difficult to process, no matter how emotionally robust or philosophical you are.
Still, there are things you can do to help yourself along the journey to acceptance. Though it might not feel like it initially, you will be able to come out of it on the other side a stronger person. Below, we take a look at a few tips to help you.
In Your Own Time
The first thing to know is that there is no “one size fits all” approach to grief. Everyone is different, and everyone reaches the acceptance part in their own time. There’ll be a period where you feel you’re at rock bottom. During this time you might lash out, hate the world, or act in ways that are not in keeping with your usual personality. It’s important to go easy on yourself during this time. It will not make things easier if you’re beating yourself up because you haven’t got things under control. No-one does when they receive a shock like an unexpected death.
You’ll never be able to bring the person back, but if your loved one died because of the actions of someone else, then you will be able to get some closure. You can do this by bringing a lawsuit against the parties who were responsible for the death. Bringing the people who are responsible to justice will be a symbolic step along your journey. It may also help with the financial issues that can follow a person’s death, especially if the person who has been lost was the main income provider for the family.
Friends and Family
It’s normal to feel alone in the world when you lose someone who was so important to you. But don’t forget that you have other friends and family there to help and support you. And they won’t just support you; if they also know the deceased, then you’ll be helping them, too. As you’re coming to terms with the loss, immerse yourself in the support of your loved ones. It’ll help to reduce the feeling of loneliness that people often feel after a death.
Honoring Their Memory
They may be gone, but they’re not forgotten. In the immediate aftermath of the death, you might want to keep thoughts of your loved one at bay because it’s too painful. Eventually, however, you’ll want to let them back into your mind, and honour their memory. This can involve sharing stories, supporting causes they were passionate about, or just otherwise making sure they have a presence in your life.
Ups and Downs
You’re not going to navigate the grieving process smoothly. No-one does, especially when the death was unexpected. You’re going to have ups and downs. The important thing is to accept that it’s going to be like this for a time, and not try to rush yourself into a healthy space. It’ll come, in time.
If you’ve lost someone close to you, hang in there. You’re not alone. Be patient with yourself and take care of your emotional and mental well being!