Engagement: Keep These 4 Things in Mind and You’re all Set!

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Firstly, I want to congratulate you on your engagement! This is such a magical time in any woman’s life, and I hope you savour every moment of it! Coming so far in your relationship, shows you’ve gotten in touch with each other’s love languages. In today’s day and age, making a relationship last is difficult, but you’ve mastered the art pretty well! With so many posts on the positive aspects of engagement, I thought I’d change the angle a little bit. The reason for this is that I want to draw your attention to some things you could be guilty of in the near future. By doing so, I hope to inspire you to focus on these 4 points. It will all be worth it.

I hate to say it, but sometimes we tend to be a little bit selfish during this time. Hopefully, this article will provide you with some clarity on what really matters during this amazing time in your life!


This is a huge step for you and your significant other. Bear in mind though,  that this engagement is YOUR reality (and a happy one at that), but not everyone will be as enthusiastic about it as you are on a 24/7 basis.

Friends celebrating an engagement

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Of course, they will be sharing in your happiness, they might just not always be ready to enthuse about your wedding day. As a newly engaged love bird, you’ll create high expectations. These will include the notion that your friends would want to invest all their time and effort into your special day. This is true to some extent, but be careful of setting the bar too high.

Remember that they live in their own reality. They might need you to return the favour once in a while by listening to them. Be there for them, without making them feel like your wedding comes first at all costs. Before they were potential bridesmaids, they were your friends. It may also be a good idea to set a day aside to spend some quality time with them. There are a lot of great ideas on what to do with your girlfriends.

Choosing Your Bridesmaids at your engagement party

Surely your engagement calls for an engagement party, right?! You’re at the bar buying shots, everyone is so happy for you! This is the perfect time to choose your bridal party… Or not…

Engagement Party Drinks

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Please don’t choose your bridal party until you are 100% (sober) confident with your choice. It’s always easy for people to join in the excitement and arrangements until the hard work starts. In the early onset of your engagement, all they can think of is your insane bachelorette and how they will make it a night to remember. Fair enough, having a party animal or two in your bridal party is definitely a must.

Be warned though, that for a lot of people, that is where it ends –  The bachelorette party. Planning a wedding can become extremely stressful and eventually take its toll on the bride. This will put her in a situation where she has to count on her bridesmaids to step in and save the day. Your wedding needs to take priority when it comes to the bridal party. They should be equally serious about both the pre-celebrations as well as the importance of your special day. You need to be able to trust them with things like your wedding cake and your dress. Trust and loyalty is so important, as you’ll want to sit back and be assured that all is taken care of when you are unable to attend to it yourself.

If this is not the case, you might be in for a bumpy ride! It’s much better to test the waters before choosing the members of your bridal party.

Don’t Waste Your Money, DIY Like a Boss!

Witnessing your beautiful wedding venue being cleaned up could be quite depressing. You’ve spent months, maybe years, contemplating the finer details. Every single detail in that room was carefully planned and selected by yourself. All to have the fairy tale wedding you deserve. What a waste to have enjoyed it for a small period of time, only to witness it being taken down. And at that very moment, you realise that life will continue just as it had before your wedding.

Watching wedding reception end

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You have probably taken out loans to afford most of the decor at your venue, and have spent the last of your savings as well. You will spend the next year trying to make your money back and will start regretting spending all that money.

There are some amazing DIY ideas out there for any wedding theme you can think of, some of which I will be blogging about in my future posts. Incorporating DIY in your wedding will not only help you save a few dimes but it will also distract you when you feel overwhelmed by all the drama that comes with planning a wedding. DIY can be a good form of therapy, and will definitely alleviate any anxiety you might experience. Speaking of anxiety, Guided Meditation is a great way to wind down a bit. Read my post on The Power of Guided Meditation here.

Your Dress Should Impress

If you're engaged, you'll probably spend a lot of time in bridal shops!

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The last thing you want is to be in an uncomfortable dress throughout your special day. This is the day you have been dreaming of since you were a little girl. You should be able to take in every moment of it without having to worry about how your body looks in your dress.

If you incorporate DIY, you will have extra money to spend. Have a second-hand dress tailored to your needs, or invest in a good-quality dress tailored to fit you like a glove! How you feel in your dress will affect every other aspect of how you remember your special day. You should be able to move around comfortably while feeling like a princess. Wearing a dress that needs to be pulled up all the time will make you will look uncomfortable in your wedding photos/videos. You will honestly regret wearing it in the first place.

Long after your special day, your guests will remember it by how you looked when you walked down that aisle. So have that dress tailored and make it an unforgettable memory.

I wish you the best of luck with all the wedding planning. Let me know how it’s going!

Do you have any tips for newly engaged women? I would love to hear from you in the comments! If you’re already married, feel free to tell me about your favourite memory of your special day. Looking forward to reading them!

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  • Dayma

    Great post! I wish this would have been around when I got married, regardless great tips, definitely forwarding it over to my bestie that’s getting married in a June!

    • Multipotentialite

      Thanks for reading, and let me know how your bestie’s wedding went!! xx

  • Heather Tasker

    Great tips! Not my first engagement, but will be planning my first wedding soon. Saving this. 😊

    • Multipotentialite

      Thank you so much for reading, I’m glad you’ve gotten another chance at happiness! Good luck with all the wedding planning xx

  • Summer Hemingway

    Lovely post, We had our wedding a few years ago and just did what we wanted and had a lovely day.

    • Multipotentialite

      Those are the best weddings – not caring too much about tradition and what is expected! Thanks for reading xx

  • Ronkerria Thomas

    Great post and well-detailed! also, some very good tips!

    • Multipotentialite

      Thanks so much, and thank you for reading! xx

  • Savannah

    Great post! The engagement period was one of my favorites, though it came with its own series of stresses and challenges. Worth it, though! Thanks for sharing. xx

  • minimalistmama22019

    Great tips!! I definitely agree with choosing bridesmaids when you’re 100% certain! I’ve had friends drunkenly ask me to be in their weddings then a couple months later nothing! Haha it’s okay, one less dress to buy!! And I did so much DIY for my wedding. It made it more special and personal! 😊

    • Multipotentialite

      Ah, well like you said – it’s one less dress to buy haha. But still, it’s annoying! Yes, DIY just adds that personal touch to your wedding! Thanks for reading xx

  • Alpana

    Great post! I wish I read it sooner- 4 years ago – Alas. But I’m going to save it and share it with friends and relatives who get engaged 🙂

    • Multipotentialite

      Haha, all good – I’m sure everything turned out well for you in the end! Thank you for taking the time out to read and comment xx

  • Nisha

    I am by not means a bride-to-be or will be anytime soon, but it was still nice to read this. My friends all seem to have their life in order and are so serious about their love lives, it can be intimidating. Even though this was meant for the bride, it still helped give tips for how us girlfriends can help and support our besties before their big day.
    I am just as big a fan of DIY. It makes you feel more involved. You have a lot of fun and when you do it with your besties you have the opportunity to bond.
    Thank you for sharing!

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