So this will be the first post in which I share a little more personal information about myself. When I started blogging about two and a half months ago, I decided to blog anonymously for a few reasons.
I think all bloggers/writers would agree that our content is a precious, raw reflection of who we really are. When we write, we express ourselves, our opinions and our thoughts. Sometimes it’s easier to do those things without judgement from people we know.
Some people will not understand us and why we choose to write. It’s much easier to express ourselves to readers who don’t truly know us, isn’t it? I think some of us are scared of what other people will think. How will they react to our opinions and thoughts? This is a big reason why I’ve started blogging as an anonymous blogger.
It wasn’t long until I discovered that staying anonymous in the blogging community is actually harder
I’ve befriended quite a few bloggers in these past few weeks. As we get to know people and interact with them more on a personal level, we struggle to stay anonymous. I don’t use my real name and I think there are only two bloggers who actually know my name. It always feels like they’ll think I have something to hide when I tell them I’d prefer to stay anonymous – but I can assure you that this is not the case.
I just think that being an anonymous blogger adds a little mystery to the equation. This is always good and intrigues your readers to know more about your thoughts and opinions. It also gives your readers a chance to form their own opinion of your work – rather than judging a book by its cover.
I thought it would be a great idea to share something personal with all of you. Although I will still remain writing anonymously, I think it’s safe to say that sharing a little bit of who I am will take my relationships in the
Here are 10 facts about me!
1. I’m left handed
I’m left-handed, but I do most things with my right hand. I use my right hand when cutting with scissors and I use my cutlery as a right-handed person would. When kicking a ball, I will usually use my right foot, but when throwing it, my left arm is used. The only thing I can’t do with my right hand is writing.
Left-handed people make up about 10% of the population. There has been no specific evidence pointing to why some of us are left-handed. Research points to a complex collaboration between genes and the
There are some ‘facts’ around left-handedness which I don’t necessarily believe in, but it’s quite interesting:
- Higher risk of psychosis
- Increased risk for dyslexia and ADHD
- Hear speeches differently
- Better artists and more creative
- Good at sports
- Often more scared and affected by fear
- More likely to show signs of PTSD
- More prone to negative emotions and anger issues
- Easily embarrassed
- More likely to become alcoholics
I don’t know how true these are. If you’re left-handed an can relate to any of these, let me know in the comments!
2. I’m a lesbian
So for those of you who read my posts on a regular basis will probably know by now that I am dating a woman.
I have been married to a woman before as well, but things didn’t quite work out. They say your first marriage (especially if you get married too young) is your trial run and your second marriage (when you’re older and wiser) is the real deal.
I have never been as happy as I am now and I’m so grateful for all the mistakes I’ve made in the past. It’s all led me to her. I can’t wait to spend my future with her. She has shown me what it’s like to live and let go of things that may seem big, but really aren’t. She has brought about so many positive changes and personal growth within me. She supports me in anything and everything!
3. I’ve recently changed my views on religion
I’ve been born into Christianity and have been raised to believe in God and the Bible. I’ve never really questioned too much, as I was too scared to question anything.
The way I see it is that I was practically forced into Christianity as it was never my own choice. We believe what we are taught and we were taught not to question.
During these past two years
I’ve been reading up about Syncretism and what it is. It’s basically defined as “the amalgamation or the attempted amalgamation of different religions, cultures or schools of thought.” I soon realised though, that this is not me either.
Then I read up about Atheism which is defined as “disbelief or the lack of belief in the existence of God or gods”. This isn’t me either, as no one will ever really know whether it exists or not!
My last try was Agnosticism. An agnostic person is a person who believes that nothing is known or can be known of the existence or nature of God. They’re kind of just sitting there on the fence, and that’s me! Even though I have a lot of Christian followers, I respect their beliefs and religion and hope that it’ll go both ways.
4. I’m an Aries
I was born on 2 April 1989. I don’t know how true horoscopes are, because time isn’t the same as it was then and it’s always changing. Some facts on Aries are true though, so I wouldn’t know if it’s just a coincidence.
Here are a few Aries facts that apply to me!
5. I have a diploma in Marketing Management
So I haven’t really used it up until now. I used to think that my whole 3 years of studying was a waste because I was totally traumatised and put off marketing after doing a telesales job.
Now that my partner and I have started our online shop, I’m starting to use my knowledge again. For the first time in ages, I feel like my studies haven’t been a waste at all, and I’m looking forward to
I’m thinking of studying graphic design as well in the future, depending on where life takes me. Guess we’ll have to wait and find out!
6. I fell pregnant at the age of 19
I know right, what a shock. I’m not getting into too much detail with this one, but today I have a beautiful 9-year old daughter.
It definitely hasn’t been easy raising her, but we’ve gotten this far and I think I’ve done a pretty good job c
Yes, she’s an annoying pre-teen who always knows better and has her naughty days – but compared to a lot of other children she’s actually really good. I don’t know if I would have been further in my life if I didn’t keep her, but I’m pretty happy with where I am right now.
I’ve had to grow up very fast in order to be a mother and didn’t have much of a young adult life. I’ve decided that the next 10 years (my 30s) will be my 20s and I’ll make up for everything and anything I had missed out on.
7. I have 6 Tattoos
I already have 6 tattoos but would love to have lots more! Here
8. My primary language is Afrikaans
As mentioned in previous posts of mine, English is my second language. I was born and raised in Afrikaans culture and didn’t speak much English until a few years ago. Here and there I still struggle with spelling and grammar, but luckily I have a great girlfriend whose primary language is English.
She usually corrects me when I’ve made grammar and spelling errors and I learn a lot from her. I know that most of my readers are primarily English speaking. If you’ve never heard what Afrikaans sounds like, here is a link to an Afrikaans song:
9. I can do acrylic nails
I used to do this part-time as an extra income and at the time I really enjoyed doing nails. I’ve stopped though because I’ve kind of lost my passion for it. I still enjoy doing my own nails. Here are some pictures of nails that I’ve done:
10. I’ve never travelled
I’ve never had the means to travel anywhere really, even within South Africa!
I was born and raised in the mother city of Cape Town and have only travelled to Johannesburg once, for a night. We’ll be travelling to Port Elizabeth in December and I’ll be going back to Johannesburg next year for a weekend.
Hopefully we’ll be able to visit London next year for Christmas! I’ll definitely be blogging about any trips I make as I’ve been dreaming of travelling somewhere other than my home town all my life.
Well, there you have it, 10 facts about me! I hope you enjoyed reading this post. Let me know your thoughts in the comments, I would love to hear from you!